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| February 14th 2011 |
This year I am really feeling the love.
All prompted by my therapist instructing me to ask three people for three things that they value about me.
This started me thinking about how I value others, a close examination of what it is I value about them; and also how I show them that I value them. I recognised that I often haven't shown this, simply due to the fact that I haven't valued myself very much....that old boring thing about being unworthy of being in their lives, of being so small and unimportant that my presence isn't really needed at all.
By some miracle, all of this reflection and painful examination of myself, has sparked a new level of knowing about the value of we human souls and the love I feel for each and everyone. After all if I didn't feel such love, then there wouldn't be so much pain when I see others suffering - would there? It has also reminded me of my learning from last year, about being humble and what this does and doesn't mean. I.E.,It doesn't mean being too afraid to share your unique and irreplaceable gifts with the world!
"The trick is not how much pain you feel but how much joy you feel. Any idiot can feel pain. Life is full of excuses to feel pain, excuses not to live, excuses, excuses, excuses. - Erica Jong.
I am reading Life is a Verb by Patti Digh, at the moment, as part of Effy Wild's BOD programme. They are both such a blessing and each another wonderful miracle to me. I am so grateful for these two wonderful creator women and that I have been led to them. I am not yet at the part of Patti's book where she asks us to list the people we value in our lives and what it is that we value( I have been skimming ahead and know this task is there somewhere in the book). Each soul is so unique and irreplaceable. I am seeing them all with new eyes and it is giving me freedom. This valentine's day I am listing the beautiful souls that are in my life. I am starting today to write them all letters or emails or to make some special art for each of them.
This Valentine's day is the start of a new way of being in the world. Sending some blessings the world's way.
Love is an act of courage, not of fear.
- Paolo Freire
I know I miss you when you're not there. I hope you already knew that.
ReplyDeleteThank you AJ. The feeling is mutual. xx
DeleteI read Life is a Verb about a year ago and loved it so much I bought it. Her other books are good too.
ReplyDeleteI used to have trouble loving myself. Not any more. I think I just got to a point where I was just tired. I knew I was a good, caring and loving person and there really was no reason to loathe myself the way I did. It seemed like it would be a lot of work but when I finally got to that point I was able to really start loving myself. (It did take a long, long time to get to that point!)
Anyway, much love to you.
ღ˚•。* ♥ ˚ ˚✰˚ ˛★* ღ˛° 。* °♥ ˚• ★ *˚.ღ 。*˛˚ღ •˚ ˚JUST SPRINKLING A LITTLE BIT OF LOVE ON YOUR BLOG!! ~♥~˚ ✰* ★˚. ★ *˛ ˚♥* ✰。˚ ˚ღ。* ˛˚ ♥ 。✰˚*
Thank you for my sprinkle of Love Birdie. Glad to hear that you got to that place of self-love. I hope I am nearly there too. Yes LIAV is fabulous isn't it?
DeleteHow fantastic is "Life is a verb"? A life-changer, for sure.
ReplyDeleteYes it definitely is.
DeleteBeautiful! I like your new approach to show others how much you love and value them. I love the quotes you've used too. Happy Valentine's day ~♥~♥~♥
ReplyDeleteHello Penny. Thanks for your hearts and your encouragement as always. x
DeleteA beautiful post full of insight. I relate to it and I believe so many women feel a similar way and yet I can only speculate what starts that feeling in them.
ReplyDeleteI love the quotes. Spread the love you feel inside Jan. Bless you <3
Thank you Lana. Yes time to spread it about a bit. x
Deletefirst off i am impressed by the eggs, you can make them for me anytime. I loved your post so honest, an clear, and thoughtful
ReplyDeleteThank you Lee. Will make you eggs someday(look out for eggs coming your way). x
DeleteJan, what a wonderful post, so full of love and trust and inspiration. It's made me realise (after a rather trying week) that the 3 people I value most in the world are I the very ones I didn't value enough this past week. I will make up that deficiency asap! And I'm definitely using the eggy-heart-toast idea for a special day soon.
ReplyDeleteThanks again for a great post!
Judy, South Africa
It's so strange isn't it Judy? How we are sometimes as human beings living in the modern world.We get our priorities all mixed up don't we. Glad my post helped. Enjoy your egg-hearts. xx
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